How To Readjust To Life After Lockdown When You Have Social Anxiety
We can finally look forward to easing of tough Coronavirus restrictions after a long, hard Covid pandemic. We can now do things we took for granted before Pandemic. But the easing of the restrictions isn’t exciting for everyone – for those with social anxiety, life after lockdown can be a scary prospect.
Social anxiety is a fear of social situations, that includes worrying about meeting strangers, how to act with groups of friends or family, work problems, ‘power’ syndrome and much more.
It can make everyday life extremely difficult for sufferers. When we add more than a year of isolation and social distancing to that, it can make people feel ‘disconnected’ and even completely ‘cut off’ from the real world.
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Here are my 3 tips on how to ‘readjust’ to life after lockdown:
1. Focus on the present, not on the future ‘what ifs’.
Worrying isn’t actually solving any problems – focus on what’s within your control only, right here, right now.
Set an appointment with yourself to WORRY. It may sound weird, but it WORKS. If your mind starts to wonder and worry, remind yourself you’ve got an appointment for worrying set. ALWAYS keep that appointment with yourself, even if by then you have nothing to worry about.
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2. Recognise patterns of behaviour that lead to self-defeating thoughts. Are you constantly scanning for threats (danger – negative judgement)?
It takes a lot of energy to actually interact with people, without the added pressure of constantly thinking about what other people think of us.
Imagine you’re sitting on the train, watching the world go by. Now think of that countryside as your thoughts. You see them, you acknowledge they are there (you are not suppressing them), but you’re choosing not to give in to them or interact with them.
3. Turn the spotlight off you and on to others in social anxiety-provoking situations.
I call this ‘Focus Awareness’.
Focus your energy on being interested in the other person. Listen rather than hear.
Next time you’re facing a social situation, pay attention to where your focus is:
What percentage is inwards (in your head), on the environment (things and people around you), and on the task itself (being absorbed in conversation)?
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