Let’s take a look at what avoidance is:

Avoidance is a type of behaviour that helps us deal with uncomfortable or scary situations. While it’s mostly observed in Social Anxiety sufferers, this type of behaviour is also common in Health Anxiety, GAD, OCD and many more types of Anxiety.

Let’s look at the avoidance example in ‘Presentation Anxiety’ (falling under ‘Social Anxiety’ umbrella):

Let’s take a look at situations you may be avoiding:

Why is avoidance a problem?

Even though avoiding situations we fear gives us temporary relief, in the long term, it keeps us ‘stuck’ in the vicious Anxiety cycle. The more we avoid, the more we confirm our fears are ‘real’. But are they?

If we never test out our negative predictions (‘If I go on that date, she will see just how ridiculous I am. She’ll never call me again, so what’s the point in going?’) then we never find out if the worst-case scenario is true.

By giving ourselves the opportunity to be curious about the outcome (‘yes, I know I’m expecting this, but what if it goes better than I think?’), we may find that our thinking wasn’t exactly correct, and learn from it.

We need to break the cycle of avoidance to truly experience the positives in life, and live fulfilling lives.

We need to implement small steps towards standing up to the fear we feel about situations.

Yes, we will feel increased anxiety and discomfort in the short term; but in the long term, our new approach to situations will give us valuable feedback and information on which to build our future approach.

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