Many people will live with unhealthy Anxiety for years; some will never seek professional help.
They’ll find their own ‘ways’ of ‘managing’ their condition and, in their own view, it ‘works’ for them. Please see the video below on seeing these behaviours in action.
The ways of coping with Anxiety are called ‘safety behaviours’. Sadly, they are not always as helpful as clients may think and may cause more damage than good.
We’ll go through some of them in this post:
There are two main safety behaviours clients use, and we will set an example of delivering a presentation to a group of people at work.
If the presenter suffers from what we call a ‘Performance Anxiety’, he or she will employ one or both possible safety behaviours:
Escape the situation– leave work before the presentation, go away; or
Avoid coming to work altogether that day.
If he or she DOES make it to the presentation, there may be severe physical and psychological symptoms present:
Endless trips to the bathroom before the presentation (vomiting, bowel movements etc);
Shaking, feeling sick and weak; thoughts and feelings distorted;
Inability to FACE anyone, hide away (contemplating ‘Escaping’ the situation as a way of ‘Managing Anxiety’);
Make excuses as to WHY he/she can’t do the presentation (Avoidance).
The client WILL give the presentation, but won’t recall any of it because he/she felt so ill.
View this presenter’s behaviour in practice:
Do you now see how these methods of ‘safety behaviours’ HINDER the person’s progress, and feeds and nurtures his Anxiety?
How long will the presenter run away, or hide away? Until he loses his job? Or leaves his current employment to find something ‘less Anxious’?
There are many variations on our example: there are relationship and dating situations, social situations and so on.
When the situation becomes like this for Anxiety sufferers, and the Anxiety and associated safety behaviours/ physical and psychological symptoms present themselves a couple of times a week, it’s time to seek professional help.
Some clients will successfully deliver on other variations of meetings and presentations, thus believing they ‘do not have a problem’. But if they can’t manage certain situations without unhealthy Anxiety kicking in, they DO.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy tools & techniques that I present to clients during my ‘Anxiety Recovery Program’ equips them with powerful ANXIETY CHANGE, MANAGE & CONTROL techniques.
These are then applied to every-day, Anxiety-provoking situations, working within real-life situations.
We add many life & business coaching tools as well, to give you clear structure and plan for the future.These tools will find many other uses in other areas of clients’ lives, such as confidence, self-esteem, any phobias, assertiveness and even depression (with extra tools added in). It’s no wonder Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is termed ‘Therapy for Life’.Take a look at my most popularAnxiety Recovery Program.
The change part is delivered over 2 days and consists of face-to-face sessions from 9 am till 6 pm both days. This change part can be delivered over the weekdays/ weekends, whatever suits the clients better.
Then it’s time for a return to the ‘real life’. The program continues to give CONSTANT support, monitoring how clients apply learned tools and techniques to every day life for the full 7 days.You have unlimited access to me for the whole length of the program (9 days).