3. Come up with a more assertive way of thinking about the situation (again, my video may help you);
4. Identify any unhelpful behavior you have been using when you have tried to do the task before.
Remember to look at both verbal and non-verbal behaviour.
5. Come up with a more helpful behaviour.
6. Rehearse what you are going to say and do.
It can be helpful sometimes to write down what you want to say.
7. Do the task you have identified.
8. Once you have done the task, praise yourself for what went well and then work out what you might want to improve on next time.
9. Keep practicing until you feel comfortable being assertive in this situation.
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